Are You Comparing Yourself Into An Early Death?

Do you use exhaustion as your proof of productivity or worthiness?

Have you been hanging onto it for that reason?

One of my clients told me one day that because she doesn't have kids, she feels like if she found a job she loved instead of the hectic one that makes her have to travel all the time, then she wouldn't have a reason to justify to all of her friends with kids why she's tired.

Are you doing that? Are you living your life allowing for overburdening and exhaustion because it is the only way that you're proving to the world that you're of worth?

Is it working?

Do you think the world views you as being so much more of a contributor because you allow yourself to stay stuck in that space every single day? What does it robbing you of?

Are you really worth more? I mean in every sense of the word, are you physically more bountifully vital than you were before, or are you economically more stable than you could ever imagine?

Are you living your dream? Do you wake up every day excited what you get to do or do you wake up thinking, oh my God, okay, here we go...again.  

Using exhaustion as the way you compare your life to other people is a toxic trap that has only one consequence which ultimately is illness and misery because it builds a constant veneer of shame over everything that you do.

Shame that you’re not enough, shame that while the other moms you know did 10 volunteer projects, you only did five, shame that your house isn't clean enough, shame that you don't look sexy enough in your jeans, shame that you didn’t want to have sex with your husband, shame that you yelled at your kids for something stupid, shame that you went somewhere and didn't have your hair done and your makeup done, shame that when you went to work, you weren't as productive, shame that you weren't well-spoken, shame because when you walk down the hallway, you don't walk confidently because your body hurts, shame because now you're burdened by having to take prescriptions every day...It just goes on and on.

It's a never-ending cycle and it doesn't get us anywhere, but it is pervasive and persistent and there are so many people living this out.  

What would it be like to give up comparing yourself to others and to give up thinking that you have to live an exhausting life in order to be worthy of life at all?

What if you're worth came from the fact that you're a beautiful divine being? What if you're worth came from the fact that there are people who absolutely love and need you to thrive and heal and soar in life?

What if you're worth came from finally giving yourself permission to live out your dreams, no matter what age you are?

What would happen then? Take one minute and think about what it would be like to live so fully alive in your dreams,  living them out in your beautiful body and feeling good every day...

How does that feel?

The comparison game, is probably one of the most toxic killers we have,  and every time we do it, every time we tell ourselves, oh, I'm sorry, we're not enough, I have to push harder… or Shut up,  I need to do this.

We literally push the God force out of our cells, and then, it just is us.

Ask Yourself, how well does my biology function if I keep pushing the God force out because I won't listen and then ask yourself, is that the life that I really want to live?

See, it doesn't matter if other people think that you don't need a break. You do.

Doesn't matter if other people think you're fine and believe you can just keep plowing ahead. They don't live in your body and you can stop comparing yourself to them. You can stop comparing yourself to anything but you, and if you look at what you're experiencing and say, Oh crap, that's not what I intended, then it's time to change it.

Let go of the toxic comparison game and all the shame that pervades with it and how all that shame shuts down your cells and how all that shame blasts the divine out of your body and say, screw this,  I'm better than this, I'm worth more than this...this is not the vision I intended. I choose to thrive!

If you are ready to give up that toxicity and start living, set up a call with us and let us see IF we feel we can help you.

Blessings

Dr. Julie