Are you in an abusive relationship with your body?

Are you in an abusive relationship with your body? Or maybe perhaps it is in one with you?

Ever considered the tone of your relationship with your body? It is just as key as the relationship with your kids, your spouse, your friends, family and more, yet, we rarely evaluate it, have hardly ever seen someone go to a therapist because of it, and yet, if we examine what that relationship really consists of, in many cases, it is classic abuse.

Do you ignore when your body tells you it is done and push past it every time? 

Do you tell yourself things like Why are you so fat? Why can’t you just get it done? What’s wrong with you? 

Do you say mean things to your body parts...I hate my belly, thighs, arms, hips?

Do you restrict food and do it because you know you will lose control, or eat the wrong things or make bad choices or need to lose weight?

Do you numb out any pain you have with OTC meds, alcohol, and more instead of paying attention to it and trying to understand it?

Do you often think of all the things that aren’t right with how your body works or feels or looks and comment on them in your head?

All of the above things if done to you by an external being would constitute abuse.

Think about that...every one of them are things if you told a friend were being said or done to you by a spouse would incense that friend and have them saying things like you have to get out of that relationship, you have to leave, you need help...are you safe?

But, we don’t, because we don’t speak about this with friends, but even moreso, because we have called this abuse normal, even accepted it as how we motivate ourselves, we are surrounded by magazine covers and books that speak about our bodies in the same ways, so, now, we think nothing of abusing ourselves.

But, your body is listening, your cells are listening, what do you think it is like for them? To live with your thoughts? To live in that toxicity all the time?

How hard must it be for them to want to send signals, or do the work required to keep your biology functioning while being constantly berated and told how wrong they do everything?

Have you ever wondered where all those thoughts go? 

Anger goes to the liver

Fear to the kidney

Grief to the lungs

Worry to the spleen

And all of it injures the heart and the child within.

How do we heal if we are constantly breaking the will of the thing we desire to heal?

It is time to break up with abuse of self, time to learn how to partner with our body instead of beating it up daily, time to learn to hear its language, and how to really feed and fuel our greatness, how to give up restrictions and to flow with grace and love within us as well as outside of us.

You cannot heal from the space of that abuse, it won’t work, which is why with my clients we work as much on this aspect of healing as we do on food, nutrients, detoxification, the gut, the nervous system, the immune system and balancing hormones, because if we didn’t, nothing would last and everything would revert back to what it was before.  This is why so many fail in healing, because the actions aren’t conjoined with the mind, emotions and spirit and eventually, the missing pieces make themselves known.

We teach you how to fuel and love, how to change the tone of your inner conversations while building rapport with those cells again, and how to ditch the negative commentator by loving her instead of making her wrong too.  

What would that do to your life? To break up with the abuser inside and fall in love again or maybe for the first time?